Every employed human in Britain is in an abusive relationship…

…with their employer. (And probably the government, but lets not split hairs.

Just ask any woman who has been emotionally abused (women have traditionally been more aware of these things). There are obvious signs that anyone would recognize, we know these red flags. There are also low level hidden signs. On their own they don’t matter so much but put them all together and they create an unsettled feeling that most people struggle to manage.

The problem is, a lot of people don’t realise. They don’t know who is to blame. We are taught to do as we are told. We are taught to conform.

Just a side note… if you’re suffering pretty glaringly clear misconduct and you don’t work for the council, head to http://www.lawscot.org.uk.

Everything is geared up for it, too. This is another theory I have about why school children are so anxious and why parents are struggling so much. Traditional parenting methods can often turn into abuse with the wrong attitude, the wrong attachment and not enough understanding. Understanding people is a new thing anyway. Just take a trip to any small Scottish town that’s out the way and bit behind with the times, and try listening to the locals. Understanding you is not part of their goals. And it’s obvious. We used to teach kids the same way we parented: with an iron fist and a sharp tongue. Why would it change in places that haven’t had civilisation creeping up on them for the past few decades?

Education has changed. Parenting is changing. Relationships are changing. We now understand more about how the brain works, how we develop attitudes and understanding. And even that’s been abused. Social media prey on social and emotional challenges to get us to use their forums, absorb their stealth advertising and skew our view of the world to what they want AND make us think its us doing it to ourselves and guilt trip us into thinking we are the problem and buy into their capitalist solutions. But people are starting to wake up. Google mail went down a few weeks back. For the first time ever. Bitcoin is making people rich who don’t even have a bank account. The internet has allowed uncensored social affairs to be broadcast to millions. Legal weed has thrown crime acts into disrepute. The world is very different. But most people can probably think of an example of a business that’s still running a chunky yellowing Compaq on windows 2000… Figuratively and literally.

Businesses pushing a capitalist, top down model will inevitably fall into the trap of being abusive. Usually the same way a human does; because of a separate pressure forcing them into making a decision where they have to put their own needs above those of the person in front of them. The strive to progress creates a need to be financially valuable to the company. Not that this is all bad but it leaves room to fall into being abusive under pressing conditions. Financial pressure, usually. Go capitalism 🎉. People in management have the company’s financial burden as the definer of any action.

I wonder if we assessed and deferred job responsibilities by a humanist model rather than a capitalist model, would many MANY positions would be seen to be unable to provide the right conditions to be offering the best human rights?

Screw ‘getting it right for every child’ what about ‘get the adults right’ …? Even airlines tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first 👌