The issue

So I see what the issue is when women get upset about not getting attention from their man when they’re out.

Issue no.1: when a woman is single, friends will give them attention. Men and women, but mostly men.

Issue no.2: when people live together they enjoy some one else’s company on the odd occasion they get it. Men and women, but mostly men.

Issue no. 3: when couples go out, the girl will sit being ignored because she’s not spoken to anyone in ages and everyone is sat self consciously calling her a bitch under their breath, and men will sit talking to everyone they’ve not spoken to in months and everyone will be interested because they’ve not heard from him in months.

So… Picture the scene… Woman and man who have been together for anything from 2 months to 3 years (hopefully by which point if shit is getting on well, have gotten past all this) go out for a drink… Man sits enjoying the attention from people he hasn’t seen in awhile, including his friends…then there’s the woman.

She sits, waiting for attention she hasn’t yet received from her partner because when you life with a man, you learn they never notice when anything changes unless it’s a significant change like a hair colour. She has so far spent 2 hours on her get up and has received no comment. When she was single, there was nobody to give a comment anyway, so she would dance in front of the mirror and post pictures to her friends, but somehow this nugget of info has passed her by. She wants attention, from anyone really, she’s used to attention from people. her friends, however, know she’s in a relationship and wonder at what point they sound weird for commenting on things. Men deal with it straight away; as soon as they know their girl mate has a man, they ignore them. They give them as little attention as they can, not necessarily deliberately, mostly by accidental man-ness…

Men amongst his woman’s friends often use them as the woman contact they aren’t allowed and alcohol thrown into the mix makes them act as close to the line as they can. Not because they don’t love their woman, but because they love their woman that much they avoid woman contact in case there’s a misunderstanding. This in itself can be an issue because men may often get with women who don’t fuel their fire, but they are monogamous and are more interested in keeping their woman there than going after what they want. Which I disagree with. Men should feel like they are after the person who fuels their drive as much as women and men who don’t see this, worry me.

Then of course mister reliable is seen to be giving no attention to his woman, whose also getting nothing from her friends.

End game? A pissed off woman and a man who has NO IDEA WHY OR HOW HE PISSED HER OFF….