Here’s why you need two parents:
The same reason being part of a pair is necessary for people to succeed, we need someone to support and ground. In a couple where one wants to succeed with high flying dreams, they need a partner to keep them grounded, keep the washing going, keep food on the table. Keep the bills paid.
It’s no different for children. They need to see the exciting opportunities that a parent is striving towards but they also need to be fed and have clean clothes and a warm home.
This is why, I believe, children favour the ‘fun parent’. Because thats the one showing them how to explore and how to enhance their experiences. To do this successfully though, they need someone to make sure their basic needs are met first (good ole Maslow still going strong in today’s society). They might not appreciate it at first because, let’s face it, they don’t have to. They shouldn’t have to. They should be exploring the word with irresponsible wunderlust. They shouldn’t be worrying about whether or not the back door is shut or when the rubbish needs to be taken out.
But one parent needs to.
If you are that parent, stay strong. Have faith. Your children may not appreciate you now, but when they are older they will understand (probably because they had a grounded parent keeping them right along their journey).
I appreciate the foundations my dad built. Whilst mum was off trying out businesses and traveling the world, dad and his steady status quo is probably the reason I didnt go off the rails as a teen.
I love both my parents and appreciate them despite the issues I grew up experiencing.
Ideally, I’ve realised, parents should take turns at being the kite soaring in the wind. Because, unless it’s your nature, being the one holding everything together is exhausting.
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